Hate Crime Unit

I attended the Hate Crimes Unit at Bishop's Park Community Centre today. Is it good news that no member of the public attended, because presumably they are not affected? Or is it a travesty that the public are still unaware of the centres or unwilling to attend?

Maybe the advertising was not sufficient to spread the word! Maybe the units will be made more use of if they can be run more regularly.

The feedback I got from posting the events on transgendered website forums was very good, so if nothing else at least some people feel a little reassured that some good work is being done.

To pee or not to pee

The Church Of Light- Spiritualist Centre For Healing and Awareness

Apton Centre, Apton Road, Bishop's Stortford




Clairvoyance and healing every 1st and 3rd Friday each month at 8pm, awareness development 2nd Friday at 8pm


I have been regularly attending the above mentioned group for over a year. In that time I have introduced family and friends to that group. I have even offered to set up or administer a website to help promote them.

So it came as quite a shock when on my way to join my family at the group, I was stopped by (Mike) the only male healer on the committee. His mission was to tell me to refrain from using the "Ladies" toilet. Apparently at the last meeting two women that also used the lavatory complained about me using them!

I expressed my dismay at being asked not to use the toilet, so he again asked me not to use the "Ladies" and suggested that I make do with the Disabled facilitates! He went on to say that the group have welcomed me, his inference being that they have tolerated me!

I should never have been asked not to use the Toilet in the first place, but to make things worse the committee dispatched a male to ask a transgendered-female not to use a Ladies toilet! Such an act could be seen as sexist bullying at the least and in my personal opinion is could be seen as hate crime. I will be seeking the advice of the police in regard to that.

I am no different to anyone else in that I am a human being, so what is there to tolerate! The fact that he did not suggest I use the "Mens" clearly points to either himself or other males being less than comfortable with me using that toilet. I do not have any disabilities so using a toilet designed for disabled people is not very practical. And it would also mean that any disabled person seeking to use the toilet would have to wait while an able bodied person used it!

What if next a disabled person was to complain that I was using the toilet! Would that mean that I would simply have to piss in my panties and if so which room should I do that in? Would it not represent a health hazard?

I pay the same entrance fee to the group as everyone else. As far as I am aware the cost of that goes towards renting the facilities including the toilets, so why should I be denied use to the toilets! I have supported the groups raffle to raise extra funds, introduced friends and family to the group. I have been a good ambassador for the group. I have helped clear away furniture at the end of the evening and even offered my services to build and maintain a website for them.

A precedent has been set in my opinion by the fact that I have been using the ladies toilets for a year already, so how can anyone justify my now being asked to use the disabled just because a couple of transphobic women expressed a concern about my using it!

As far as I am aware the facility is rented to various groups, so I will shortly be writing to the council and asking them if there is any legal recourse to such bigoted use of their hall, after all is the council not supposed to be actively seeking equality for all!

Mothers Day

I was pleasantly surprised to receive chocolate, flowers and a heart balloon today. I was even more surprised when I was told that it was because "you are a Mummy too"!